Just yesterday I was having tea with a friend and we were chatting about marriage. She has children at the marrying age all the way down to eight years old. I would consider her and her husband to have a great marriage. She would agree. The problem is that I don't know many people who I could really say that I think they have a great marriage.
I have always felt so overwhelmed by the fact that Michael and I have a wonderful marriage. I am so full of thanksgiving to the Lord for this. It isn't something that we have done on our own, and I am not quite for sure what made it a great marriage. I know that a three fold cord isn't easily broken and we have the Lord and each other making up our three fold cord. But there are many Christian people that have the Lord, and their marriage isn't good let alone great.
As I sat with my friend yesterday, I asked her what did she and her husband do to make their marriage great. She looked at me and chuckled and said, "I really don't know." I asked Michael the same question the other evening when we were alone. We spent some time chatting about it, but I don't know that we came to a single conclusion. Here is what I do know...
When we got married, we moved from a town of 3,000 and 2 stop lights to Orlando, Florida. What a culture shock for both of us! We both had just turned 19 and we were on our own. It was just him and me. We were 13 hours from our home and anything familiar to us. We poured ourselves into one another because we had nobody else. We have always lived away from our family and we have learned how to depend on each other.
We started out with a great friendship, and it has only grown from there. Michael is my best friend and he has been that for many years. There isn't any person in the world that I would rather spend the day with than him. We enjoy being with one another. He does some things that I don't enjoy, but I will do them if he asks me to. The other day he asked me to go golfing with him. He doesn't golf very much and he thought it would be fun. I personally did not want to go, but I went anyway. I didn't want to golf so I told him I would drive the golf cart. We had a ball that afternoon. We laughed and talked for several hours. I walked around the golf course barefooted because the grass felt so good on my feet. He wasn't embarrassed. He knew that was something that would make me smile.
I know there are things over the years that we have done to make our marriage great. I am considering posting some of those ideas that have worked for us in several different posts. My heart is to see husbands and wives walking in a great relationship with one another. We have had to learn how to disagree in the right way. We have even had to learn how to fight things out in the correct manner. We don't always agree. There are days that I could just shake him, but those days are few and far between.
What about you? Do you have any ideas to share with others on how to make a great marriage?
grace and peace,